I’m processing right now and taking a moment to share some thoughts.
I’ve been working on chapters of the book(s), specifically looking at the parenting side of life as well as ethnicity and colour.
I’ve written about my lack of relationship with both my dad and ex-step dad and I’ve also mentioned the relationship I’ve had with Lois’ parents over the years.
There are obviously times and seasons for everything, to be born and to die.
The irony is, today is my dad’s 69th/70th birthday, but we have also heard news that my father-in-law collapsed and died today.
The family is obviously shaken by the tragedy, especially considering my mother-in-law has been bed-ridden with an inability to speak properly, since May 2016.
I have a bag of mixed feelings right now and obviously Lois even more so, we are deeply sad, as we see the bigger picture.
Some could rightly say, he had a long-life (he was 86) and was a humorous and active hard working man for most of his life, until the physical health issues started to wear him down.
I’ve known him for the last 29 years, we’ve had our laughs, agreements and disagreements, but being his first son-in-law, I felt comfortable enough to call him dad, shortly before being married to his youngest daughter.
The last time we saw him was four months ago, back in February at a funeral, he looked tired and slow but having arthritic pain will do that to a person of senior years.
Since then, we wouldn’t have been able to see him, even if we wanted to, due to the lock-down.
Our disagreements, although documented, were water under a bridge for me, I get what I have to say said, forgive and move on.
I was able to have a decent enough catch up conversation with him at the funeral.
We are sad, not only at his passing and him no longer being around to see his grand and great grand children grow up.
Lady G and I are mainly sad because he was a man who struggled with the issue of forgiveness and God forgiving people who he thought should ‘pay’.
Back in March 2016, we passed by one evening to see them and I was led to talk ‘again’ (as others have) to both him and Mrs W about their souls and salvation, especially being people of senior years.
I reminded them of the obvious, they were getting older and they didn’t know what could happen or when they will pass.
My mother-in-law, who usually has a lot to say, was silent, when I asked her what prevents her from opening her heart, accepting Jesus Christ as her Lord and Saviour and getting baptised in His name.
Her response was a shrug of shoulders, the shaking of her head and a mumble, she couldn’t give me a straight answer.
Two months later she suffered a stroke, couldn’t speak properly and it was the start of consecutive mini strokes and repeated trips and stays in the hospital.
My father-in-law, had a lot to say, as I said, he struggled (as many do) with the issue of forgiveness and carried an emotional under-current of anger.
He didn’t think God should easily forgive, without severe punishments, the:-
* Europeans for hundreds of years of the enslavement of Africans in Europe, America and the Caribbean.
* Europeans for the treatment of the Native original people of the land in America.
* Europeans for creating apartheid in South Africa.
* The Brits for their treatment of the original people of Australia, the Aborigines.
My father-in-law also incorrectly (as many do) mixed up religion and the corruptive, selective using of the Bible, with a true Relationship and a way of life with Jesus Christ.
When I tried to explain the difference, the importance that none will escape punishment and the need for repentance and salvation (to escape), his response was… “I have a few things to say to Jesus and I’ll take my chances”.
While I was surprised and worried for him at his brash boldness of words, as I always do, I respected him for sharing his truths; I’m always about honest communication, whether I agree or not.
So 4 years and a few months later, after telling me ‘he’ll take his chances’, he has now journeyed to find out.
Lois and I are devastated about that, as we always are, when people we know pass away without receiving the salvation of Yeshua Adonai.
We are sad that there will be no more historical stories of his journey to the “mother land” and his good and bad experiences of being in Britain since the 1950s.
We are sad that his jokes will no longer be heard by the family but as I said, more importantly, we are sad that he has passed without being saved.
I’ve shared my thoughts here as I can make a calculated guess that I will not be asked to say anything by Lois’ elder siblings.
I obviously care about how they are feeling and have prayed for all of them.
We will be visiting tomorrow and the irony is, in having a recent conversation with her eldest sister, if this sad and serious event didn’t happen, they would probably not want us to come round, due to the sensitive state of mums condition and their concerns over Covid.
Life is brief and fleeting, if we are fortunate, look after ourselves and Yeshua spares and allows, we could live a maximum of 120 years.
Sadly, so many don’t even get to middle age (60) also the biggest tragedy of all, so many lives have passed without accepting salvation.
I hope and pray that you have accepted the call and adhered to it.
June…It’s also the month of my queen and 1st princesses birthdays, it’s the month my paternal grandmother passed away (4 years ago) and its now become the month my father-in-law, Mr W, aka dad, has passed.
May Yeshua Adonai comfort, strengthen and minster to all who grieve and may those who have not taken on His name in baptism and the fullness of His Spirit, do so, while they can.
Blessings to you all.
Please read References :-
The Gospel according to John Chapter 3 verses 1 to 8
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