Thank you for the condolences and tributes for our mother, as well as a brief look into family and friend dynamics.

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Background music credits:-
Anything too hard – Samuel Medas| The Blessed of God – Nolly | Blessings – Marizu Asha Elia & Rehmahz | Blessy – Epsitle Project | Centre – R – Scar | Every Day | Everytime Grateful – Kelly Price | God Like You – Calledout Music | God only knows – King & Country | He knows – Karen Clark Sheard | He That Dwelleth – Samuel Medas | Hiding – Bobby Bovell | Hold Me Down – Squad Efrain feat. Jor’dan Armstrong | I surrender – Kim Forth | Make it home – Burgz

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Thank you for watching the video, I appreciate it.
I did use an additional microphone, which cut down wind noise, but not all.
Also, I’m sorry for the volume level of the music, if you find it too high…however, the birds, I could do nothing about.
This video and post is part 2 to the previous post concerning my mothers’ death.
Link below for those who like to read/watch, having the correct (full) context.

This post is also in the ‘GoodRead’ category…it’s not short.
As I always say, please grab a snack and your favourite drink, get yourself comfortable and enjoy the read.

A “Thank you” for the tributes for our mother, from my sister, who is not on social media…Sent via email.


The reasons for the friend, family and frienemy dynamics.

IARNR_Religion to Relationship

As mentioned in the video, in reference to one of my mums visions.
There are (as I like to call them) “Jesus originated, divine and universal principles” at work, in ALL our lives.
Whether we believe in Him or not, are “religious” (everything in the Red, Blue & Green circles) or are ‘centred’ in “relationship” with Jesus…they affect us all.

The chosen, aka the elect, are all those who already have or eventually will (after going through our process) be in the centre of that diagram, in ‘relationship’ with Adonai Yeshua Hamashiach, our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.
Having repented, forgiven others, been forgiven, baptized in Jesus’ Holy name, filled with His Holy Spirit and loving others (even our enemies), along with reading His Holy Word, praying, fasting and living out our purpose…all before we die, or before He returns.
Whether we were born into the religious families in the Blue and Green Circles, or our background is from one or more of the other religions in the Red.

What Yeshua (Jesus), The Psalmists (inspired by His Spirit) and the Disciples led by His Spirit, says about His chosen/elect…

The Lord brings the counsel of the nations to nothing;
He makes the plans of the peoples of no effect.
The counsel of the Lord stands forever,
The plans of His heart to all generations.

Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord,
The people He has chosen as His own inheritance.

The Lord looks from heaven;
He sees all the sons of men.
From the place of His dwelling He looks
On all the inhabitants of the earth;
He fashions their hearts individually;
He considers all their works.”

Psalms 33:10-15

Fear not, for I am with you;
I will bring your descendants from the east,
And gather you from the west;
I will say to the north, ‘Give them up!’
And to the south, ‘Do not keep them back!’
Bring My sons from afar,
And My daughters from the ends of the earth—
Everyone who is called by My name,
Whom I have created for My glory;
I have formed him, yes, I have made him.”
Bring out the blind people who have eyes,
And the deaf who have ears.
Let all the nations be gathered together,
And let the people be assembled.
Who among them can declare this,
And show us former things?
Let them bring out their witnesses, that they may be justified;
Or let them hear and say, “It is truth.”
“You are My witnesses,” says the Lord,
“And My servant whom I have chosen,
That you may know and believe Me,
And understand that I am He.
Before Me there was no God formed,
Nor shall there be after Me.
I, even I, am the Lord,
And besides Me there is no saviour.
I have declared and saved,
I have proclaimed,
And there was no foreign god among you;
Therefore you are My witnesses,”
Says the Lord, “that I am God.
Indeed, before the day was, I am He;
And there is no one who can deliver out of My hand;
I work, and who will reverse it?”

Isaiah 43:5-13

Then I will sow her for Myself in the earth,
And I will have mercy on her who had not obtained mercy;
Then I will say to those who were not My people,
‘You are My people!’
And they shall say, ‘You are my God!’ ”

Hosea 2:23

So the last will be first, and the first last. For many are called, but few chosen.”

Matthew 20:16

But you do not believe, because you are not of My sheep, as I said to you.
My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me.
And I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; neither shall anyone snatch them out of My hand.”

John 10:26-28

For I have given you an example, that you should do as I have done to you.
Most assuredly, I say to you, a servant is not greater than his master; nor is he who is sent greater than he who sent him.

If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them.
I do not speak concerning all of you.
I know whom I have chosen;…”

John 13:15-18

You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain…”

John 15:16

If you were of the world, the world would love its own.
Yet because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.”

John 15:19

Just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love.”

Ephesians 1:4

But we are bound to give thanks to God always for you, brethren beloved by the Lord, because God from the beginning chose you for salvation through sanctification by the Spirit and belief in the truth.”

2 Thessalonians 2:13

But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvellous light.”

1 Peter 2:9

These will make war with the Lamb, and the Lamb will overcome them, for He is Lord of lords and King of kings; and those who are with Him are called, chosen, and faithful.”

Revelation 17:14

Time (as we know it) is wrapping up and Jesus’ words/prophecies are being fulfilled.
We are seeing the evidence in both our behaviour and the behaviour of others.
Ever wondered why are the days going by so fast?

“And unless those days were shortened, no flesh would be saved; but for the elect’s sake, those days will be shortened.”

Matthew 24:22.

Jesus has been shortening the days, for His “chosen”, and will continue to shorten them as more of his prophecies concerning ‘end-time’ events, happen.

While many are permitted (by Jesus’ permissible will) to create so-called grey areas, His word is not only autocratic but extremely Black and White, highlighting both righteousness and sin, without any ambiguity.

People are agitated, deceived, provoked and threatened by the temporary allowed powers that be, the enemies of the Human race.
The enemies help to create family disagreements, unforgivingness, envy, jealousies and enmity, leading to serious feuds, separations etc.
They hate real marriage, between one man and one woman, they hate the originally intended family unit, they especially hate women and children.
They have been on a continuous mission to destroy the relationships which represent Jesus’ creativity, promises to mankind, blessings, purity, and the love and covenant between Him and mankind.
Family enmity and feuds, have been with us since the dawn of time.
In the first family, with Cain murdering Abel after which, led to Cain’s family (living at the bottom of the mountain) being separated from Seth’s family, who lived at the top of the mountain.
The enemies also assisted in causing divisions, after the original re-boot (the original great reset)…aka the flood.
Causing division among Noah’s children and their families/tribes.

Come forward in time, thousands of years later, and Jesus re-emphasised something which has been historically evident.
However, He gave more clarity and understanding for the reasons why divisions among relatives, family and friends, would become more prominent and a regular occurrence, right up until He returns.

Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth?
I did not come to bring peace but a sword.
For I have come to ‘set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law’;
and ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household

He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me.
And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.
And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of M
He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.”

Matthew 10:34-39

This truth, mentioned by God Himself, has been hard to accept by many of the religious, including religious Christians.
Over the years, while my mum could easily talk about the separation of the religious Christians, from those in Relationship with Jesus within religious organizations.
Especially after feeling let down and mislead by some in religious organizations.
She found it hard to accept that Jesus was talking about everyone, starting with families.
I, in my usual manner, pointed out that truth to her, emphasizing that it included her and her 7 children too.

So this is a “Jesus universal principle” at work today, there maybe various symptoms, reasons, excuses, and natural causes for the splits/feuds within families.
However, the core and foundation for those divisions, boil down to the differences between the many who are ‘called’ and the few who are ‘chosen’.
Our differing views on life-issues, morality, principles, truth, honesty, being two-faced, hypocrisy, back-stabbing, forgiveness, reconciliation and what true love is and means.
Even if ‘some’ of the individuals involved, have ‘yet’ to understand they are the chosen, yet to acknowledge that Jesus is God, that they need to repent, be baptized in His wonderful name and be centred in relationship with Him, leaving religion behind…see my previous post for details.

As a loving person, you want everyone to love you, as you love them.
However, it’s simply not realistic, as a number of Biblical truths point this out.

Adulterers and adulteresses! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world, makes himself an enemy of God.”

James 4:4

Woe to you when all men speak well of you,
For so did their fathers to the false prophets.”

Luke 6:26

Now brother will deliver up brother to death, and a father his child; and children will rise up against parents and cause them to be put to death.
And you will be hated by all for My name’s sake.
But he who endures to the end will be saved.”

Matthew 10:21-22

A disciple is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master.
It is enough for a disciple that he be like his teacher, and a servant like his master.
If they have called the master of the house Beelzebub, how much more will they call those of his household!
Therefore, do not fear them.
For there is nothing covered that will not be revealed, and hidden that will not be known.
Whatever I tell you in the dark, speak in the light; and what you hear in the ear, preach on the housetops.”

Matthew 10:24-27

For those who claim to be believers and want everyone to love them, you need to understand.
Yes, we are commanded to love people, but true believers ‘in relationship’ with Yeshua, need to accept that they can’t compromise their beliefs, biblical truths and principles.
We have to make a stand and show our ‘real love’ to the sinner (as we once were) by being honest with them, concerning what God(Jesus) says about certain negative behaviours/actions/words, while hating the sinful outcomes of that negativity.
True believers in relationship with Jesus, have and will, continue to lose many religious frienemies and be shunned by relatives, when we continue to have a non-compromising relationship with Jesus, being obedient to His Word.
We will be accused of being many things, even being a representative of Satan(Beelzebub), as well as being judgemental, holier than thou, a bigot and more.
We have to stand firm on our spiritual truths, aka the words of Jesus and His disciples who were led by His Holy Spirit…words from the Holy Bible.
We need to understand that we need to first go to Him to help us eradicate our faults, so that we can see clearly to help others (in love) with theirs.

Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

Matthew 7:5

We have to understand that there is a difference between condemning someone and making a righteous judgement.
It was something my mum had problems understanding and accepting and she would often show bias in verbally condemning the actions of others, while refusing to accept that most of her own children had similar issues.
I would always try to help her see the truth, and it would seem, after the last couple of years making some poor decisions herself concerning a man and a relationship she should not have entered in.
She started to understand how to assess situations with more compassion.
However, there is a danger that our “compassion” can easily turn into “compromise” when we allow partiality and family/relative/friend bias to cloud our judgement.


The Bible is the benchmark, it’s still the best-selling instructional manual in the world, the most referenced book online, and it’s there for all to read.
Religious conservative Christians, have a general belief that believers should keep pushing, trying to get individuals to understand they need Jesus’ Salvation.
Religious liberal Christians believe that only a show of love is necessary.
The truth of the matter is, they are both right (to an extent) however, it’s important to remember that the majority are called but only a few are chosen.
We shouldn’t continue to pick on every incorrect word or actions of others, who still behave as we once did.
However, at the same time, we shouldn’t be silent all the time, as that silence will be read as acceptance of sin (words and actions) and shows a willingness to compromise our own faith.

While Yeshua tells us to love and forgive (read the gospels) He also tells us to ‘read the room’ and understand that many (the called) will not budge on their religious beliefs.
At some point in a chosen person’s life, when Jesus is ready for them to see ‘the bigger picture’ they will make the move, repent and say ‘I do’ to Jesus.
The chosen need to remember that the length of time and process is different for everyone.
We should love both and understand that there will come a time that Jesus will say, enough is enough with particular individuals and advise us not to cast our unappreciated/unwanted pearls before them.
I tried to show my mum this truth and shared the Bible scriptures/verses which support this truth, and it was yet another thing that my mum had a hard time with accepting, especially concerning some of her other children.
She read it as being judgemental and lacking compassion, however, the truth remains the truth, whether it’s believed or not.
Over the last 30 years I have learned not to share the treasures of truth and salvation with those who reject, look for arguments or don’t believe.
I do have references with those particular scriptures I shared with my mum, concerning moving on.
If you are interested in what they are, leave a comment below, and I will list them in my response.

Regarding love, it’s important for us all to remember, while we turn the other cheek and forgive, we should also do to others as we expect them to ‘righteously’ do to us.
If we remember this, we will never take the love of others for granted.
Lois, my sister and I keep quoting…where there’s life there’s hope.
While people are alive, they still have a chance to come good, however, only Jesus ultimately knows who He has chosen, and their life will reflect the ‘good fruit’ of His Holy Spirit at some point before they die.
Yeshua(Jesus) is God, the beginning and the end, we are here by His intelligent design, not accident or any other religious evil-solution.
I can’t speak for anyone else, but I’m a descendant of Adam and Eve, Seth, Noah etc., not Koba or Kerchak.
Jesus calls and ‘chooses’ whom He pleases, to fit a big picture which none of us can see.
While we are all alive on this planet, He shows that He does have a love for all.
That in itself is a massive topic and needs a whole book to cover it.

Yeshua’s love for us is obvious and evident to some, but He does leave us a statement and command, which will provoke His chosen, to examine ourselves…do we love him?

If you love Me, keep My commandments.”

John 14:15

Works or Obedience?

I’ll reiterate something I said in the video, with more detail.
It’s obviously right to remember the best of someone, when their time here on earth is called by Yeshua.
There is nothing wrong with listing all their good points, it can help in the grieving process.
However, the world (the religious in those circles) in general, have a tendency to give more credit to an individual ‘after’ they have died, sometimes after not showing enough honest and real appreciation/love, while the person lived.
Another strange phenomenon is the pouring out of excessive emotions (on both MM and SM) by people for their idols (the financially rich or famous), people they don’t know personally.
Sadly, sometimes, they show more emotion for the deceased 1-20%, than they do to their own relatives and people they knew in their own social circles…but that is yet another topic.

There are obviously many reasons for the praising of the dead, the obvious being that the individual was a good person, did good for others and made people feel loved.
Maybe they are superstitious and don’t want to share negatives, for fear of being haunted.
Maybe it’s guilt because that they didn’t treat the individual well, while they were alive.
Maybe it’s guilt for not sorting out any differences or not forgiving.
Maybe it’s a give to get situation, saying nice things about the dead, in the hope that when they pass, others will say good things about them.
Like I said, there is nothing wrong with being polite and nice about a recently deceased individual and remembering the good times.
However, the chosen, the real believers and disciples of Jesus, understand that what is most important, is whether the individual was saved and right with Jesus before they died.

Charitable works are good and right to do, but has that individual been obedient to word of Jesus and did they do what He requires of all true believers… His chosen?
The ideal is obvious, true believers (the chosen) ‘should’ also be doing charitable works.
However, it’s not for us to remember and even share, everything we do for others or even think that doing charitable works is a sure ticket to go to heaven.
Something my mum would be guilty of, is recounting the good she did for others, especially when she needed help and felt she was being overlooked.
I would obviously feel for her, help where I could but advised her to place more of an emphasis on remembering what others have done for her, while allowing others to remember what she has done for them.

No shrines or idols

I’m not knocking anyone else who has suffered loss.
I know we all grieve differently and deal with loss in different ways.
As I’ve said in the videos, Lois and I have had all 4 parents (and my last grandparent) die between 2020-2023, leaving us as adult orphans and our children without any grandparents.

True loving friends and family have been a support and have looked out for us, especially our youngest two children.
Sadly, there have been many (relatives) who have not checked in with our youngest two, to find out how they are doing.

In saying all of that, while it has been only a month since my mum died, memories will always be there for me, especially being her eldest.
However, I will not be excessively sharing online on a regular basis about her, my tribute to her was already on this website and has been seen and acknowledged by others.
I will mostly keep my own counsel and keep my lines of communication open with our creator, Adonai Yeshua Hamashiach (our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ) aka prayer.
Keeping the happy and good memories (sharing some with my nearest and dearest) while hoping that mum did make things right with Jesus before she drew her last breath.

To conclude

As much as my mum occasionally bemoaned not having enough physical help and finances.
She accumulated and created lots of works of art and catering equipment and other items.
Over the last few years, I strongly advised her to ensure that she sorted out her will and other affairs.
I only hope that two of my sisters (who have done well in their work-life, but don’t have any spouses or children) will get together, get on a plane and sort out the rest of our mums affairs.

IARNR_Soul Insurance

We can have all the material wealth and do all the charitable works under the sun, but the most important thing, for our soul’s sake, is obedience to the Word of Jesus.
Jesus, who created all, owns all souls.
Some, for the promise of wealth, fame and adoration, or a prominent position and a seat at the table, when the prince of the world system possess the (soon to be revealed) NWO ACL.
They have failed in their own personal tests of temptation and faith.
Matthew 4:1-11

They have temporarily rented out their souls (they cannot sell what doesn’t belong to them) to the chief prince of the enemies of the human race.
He is permitted to offer some things for a time, but eventually has to release the chosen when Yeshua says enough is enough.
However, it’s sadly not good news for the ‘called’, as those who sell out (which includes taking the pending mark) will book their spot in the lake.
Revelation 20:9-16

However, where there is life, there is hope.

Behold, all souls are Mine;
The soul of the father
As well as the soul of the son is Mine;
The soul who sins shall die.
But if a man is just
And does what is lawful and right;
If he has not eaten on the mountains,
Nor lifted up his eyes to the idols of the house of Israel,
Nor defiled his neighbour’s wife,
Nor approached a woman during her impurity;
If he has not oppressed anyone,
But has restored to the debtor his pledge;
Has robbed no one by violence,
But has given his bread to the hungry
And covered the naked with clothing;
If he has not exacted usury
Nor taken any increase,
But has withdrawn his hand from iniquity
And executed true judgment between man and man;
If he has walked in My statutes
And kept My judgments faithfully—
He is just;
He shall surely live!”
Says the Lord God.

Ezekiel 18:4-9

If an individual has sold/rented out (their souls) and they are the chosen, they can and will be redeemed, washed and saved.

IARNR_Religion to Relationship

Yeshua has (and continues) to take his people from all walks of life, from both the ‘other spiritual’ and ‘physical’ religions of this world.
Black, Brown, Cream and White, male and female, young, old and in between.
The chosen will eventually be centred in relationship with Him.

A word to the wise…
Look for Yeshua (Jesus) and encourage your loved ones to do the same.

As always, dear reader, thanks for reading and your support.
Look after yourself and your loved ones.
Phil Gayle
G Man

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