For some


For some, it’s due to my gender, being comfortable with my masculinity and loving being the man which Yeshua created me to be. For some, it’s due to the colour of my skin, being proud to be a straight Black man and a ‘certain kind of Black’ at that. For some, it’s due to me … Read more

The marriage series – Arranged marriage


Arranged marriage, those two words can provoke differing emotions, along with raised eyebrows.Depending on where you are in the world and your cultural background, arranged marriage can be looked at with a sense of excitement and expectancy or dread and disgust. If you haven’t already done so, please make some time to read the ‘It … Read more

The marriage series – Patriarchal naming


Identity means a lot to ‘most’ people.It’s ‘usually’ a given that most balanced, rational and relational people like to know where they are coming from and who the relatives are, in their biological ancestral paternal & maternal family lines. There is always something a little ‘different’ (sometimes positives, mostly negatives) about those who grew up … Read more

Unrestricted research


Search engines took over from the library (a place I would frequent often when I was younger) a long time ago.Thankfully, libraries will always have their place but rightly or wrongly, most people get their news and information via search engines on their e-devices and like it or not, their phones being the most frequently … Read more

The marriage series – Married, divorced and re-married


I love and prefer the interaction of dialogue but I will continue to do the ‘monologue thing’ if I have to.I could view the monologue post, as a type of newspaper column using a more formal format but I’ll save the more formal approach for my books and remain more personal on the Blog.As with … Read more

The marriage series – Polygamy


Welcome to the second post within the marriage series.Hopefully you’ve had time to do the pre-reading (“An extended introduction”, “Homosexuality… ” and “I’m sorry if”) and the first post, ‘What is marriage?’ which will keep all the posts in this series in context. What is Polygamy?Polygamy is an interesting topic which I’ve seen people tackle … Read more

The marriage series – What is marriage?


On the second of July, Lois and I reached our 28th year of marriage but have been together for 31 years.Back in 2012, when we were winding down our failing I.T. company and I was given the vision and inspiration to set up FSAC (For Singles And Couples).When I spoke to my dearly departed friend … Read more

The natural celibate (spiritual eunuch)

The natural celibate

A few months back a young woman tweeted that ‘marriage is not for everyone’.She was answered by a young guy who was in my network, who’s reply was ‘you’ve been lied to, it is for everyone’. So who was right?The short answer is, they are both right.Marriage is available for every male and female, however, … Read more

Times and Seasons Life and Death 3

Four Seasons

Hello. Related posts…Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 2 Update Part of the circle of life, includes the sadness and devastating trauma of death.Losing a loved one affects people in different ways.Some shut down, some shut themselves away, some use the drug of alcohol in an attempt to numb the pain, some walk around … Read more

The changing meaning of friendship


Greetings readers. I know I’ve previously written a ‘short’ about friends and family but I would like to delve a little deeper into friendship.Whether we care to admit it or not, our views on friendships begin from our own experiences within our family life and upbringing from childhood.Some people can jump between family and friends, … Read more

The case of


Hi, I hope all is well with you and your loved ones.I’ve been thinking a lot about people, as I do, about what motivates someone to visit a website, slow down to read the information and (if able to) leave a comment.The word which comes to mind is ‘interest’, where people are interested, they will … Read more

Know the enemy


Greetings (Salamu).I hope you are well and looking after yourself holistically.Regular visitors know, I share because I care, I’m an expressive communicator, who believes that we can do one of two things, with our universal experiences.Selfishly attempt to keep them to ourselves or share them, in the hope of helping others going through similar situations; … Read more