For some


For some, it’s due to my gender, being comfortable with my masculinity and loving being the man which Yeshua created me to be. For some, it’s due to the colour of my skin, being proud to be a straight Black man and a ‘certain kind of Black’ at that. For some, it’s due to me … Read more

The marriage series – Parenting


I’ve always had an issue with people who mention that they are not ready for the ‘marriage thing’, while being comfortable with having a child or more, sometimes with more than one partner.We really do live in a reverse (seemingly parallel universe) world, where those who could have children refuse, or can’t, for various reasons.While … Read more

Unrestricted research


Search engines took over from the library (a place I would frequent often when I was younger) a long time ago.Thankfully, libraries will always have their place but rightly or wrongly, most people get their news and information via search engines on their e-devices and like it or not, their phones being the most frequently … Read more

The marriage series – What is marriage?


On the second of July, Lois and I reached our 28th year of marriage but have been together for 31 years.Back in 2012, when we were winding down our failing I.T. company and I was given the vision and inspiration to set up FSAC (For Singles And Couples).When I spoke to my dearly departed friend … Read more

The singles index


Most of the main posts for singles, are listed below. Obviously, these posts are not for all singles.There are many singles who have experienced and done everything and may have come to the conclusion that they either know everything, have no need to look at their single life from a different perspective and have no … Read more

The natural celibate (spiritual eunuch)

The natural celibate

A few months back a young woman tweeted that ‘marriage is not for everyone’.She was answered by a young guy who was in my network, who’s reply was ‘you’ve been lied to, it is for everyone’. So who was right?The short answer is, they are both right.Marriage is available for every male and female, however, … Read more

Friendship first


Greetings reader.I hope you are well. Lois and I recently watched an Amazon Prime show ‘The one who got away’.As with all these relationship reality TV shows, it was edited/scripted more for the entertainment value, rather than a sincere desire to assist the participants, with the relationship decision making process.Also, as with most contemporary TV … Read more

The changing meaning of friendship


Greetings readers. I know I’ve previously written a ‘short’ about friends and family but I would like to delve a little deeper into friendship.Whether we care to admit it or not, our views on friendships begin from our own experiences within our family life and upbringing from childhood.Some people can jump between family and friends, … Read more

Know the enemy


Greetings (Salamu).I hope you are well and looking after yourself holistically.Regular visitors know, I share because I care, I’m an expressive communicator, who believes that we can do one of two things, with our universal experiences.Selfishly attempt to keep them to ourselves or share them, in the hope of helping others going through similar situations; … Read more

Women only

Women only

Greetings ladies.I hope you are well.I know women can be inquisitive and ‘usually’ read more than men; which would mean, you may have already read my ‘Just for men’ post.As with the men on SM, especially Twitter, it’s my observation that women display similar frustrations and ‘seemingly’, a search for answers…well the brave and the … Read more

Just for men


Greetings men.SM can be frustrating at times because I see so many cries for help from men, especially on Twitter.Some are direct and honest tweets but the rest are hidden within both the outrageous and the supposedly “funny” tweets.I also see some truth/wisdom gems, from men and depending on who they are, the responses to … Read more

Relationship vs Religion – The comparisons


Greetings dear readers.This post was originally intended to be the last part of part 3.Due to the length of the post (and series) I emotionally wrestled with continuing to lengthen part 3, or create an additional post.Obviously, after trusting and believing that the readers of part 1, part 2 and part 3 would ‘finish’ what … Read more