Why it takes a village – (Part 2 of 2)

It Takes a Village

In part one, I covered some of our personal experiences and history. We take our parental role seriously and we understand that effective parenting and leadership, is about influence and motivation to positive action. Life has those unknown external elements which are beyond our immediate control; they usually occur through the actions of others. However, … Read more

Why it takes a village – helping young adults to build good long-term relationships & marriage (Pt 1 of 2)

Before the obvious educational establishments, before the rise of the Internet Search Engines, books and libraries were used to increase humankind’s knowledge. Before that, it was word of mouth from family members and community elders, along with cave and wall paintings. Books have lasted the test of time and are still used by those seeking … Read more

Enemies of the Village – Relatives, frienemies and strangers with agendas

EnemiesOfTheVillage

IN CONTEXT Hopefully, you would have already read both ‘part 1’ and ‘part 2’ of the ‘It takes a village’ posts. Reading other posts, such as ‘It’s important to remember’ and ‘Love and colour’, are also relevant, as they give additional understanding for this real-life scenario, to be understood in the correct context. It’s obviously … Read more

The marriage series – Parenting

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I’ve always had an issue with people who mention that they are not ready for the ‘marriage thing’, while being comfortable with having a child or more, sometimes with more than one partner.We really do live in a reverse (seemingly parallel universe) world, where those who could have children refuse, or can’t, for various reasons.While … Read more

Women only

Women only

Greetings ladies.I hope you are well.I know women can be inquisitive and ‘usually’ read more than men; which would mean, you may have already read my ‘Just for men’ post.As with the men on SM, especially Twitter, it’s my observation that women display similar frustrations and ‘seemingly’, a search for answers…well the brave and the … Read more

The marriage series – Arranged marriage

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Arranged marriage, those two words can provoke differing emotions, along with raised eyebrows.Depending on where you are in the world and your cultural background, arranged marriage can be looked at with a sense of excitement and expectancy or dread and disgust. If you haven’t already done so, please make some time to read the ‘It … Read more

The marriage series – Patriarchal naming

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Identity means a lot to ‘most’ people.It’s ‘usually’ a given that most balanced, rational and relational people like to know where they are coming from and who the relatives are, in their biological ancestral paternal & maternal family lines. There is always something a little ‘different’ (sometimes positives, mostly negatives) about those who grew up … Read more

The natural celibate (spiritual eunuch)

The natural celibate

A few months back a young woman tweeted that ‘marriage is not for everyone’.She was answered by a young guy who was in my network, who’s reply was ‘you’ve been lied to, it is for everyone’. So who was right?The short answer is, they are both right.Marriage is available for every male and female, however, … Read more

The crabs in a bucket mentality and how it negatively affects relationships.

Crabs in a bucket

With regards to our approach on how we live life, there’s a belief that people fit into one of two categories.Those who predominantly ‘do’ and those who predominantly ‘watch’.Doers tend to be busy trying to achieve something ‘unique or different’, to what others around them are doing.Watchers (while doing the normal or ordinary) are ‘usually’ … Read more

Obeying the ‘relationship’ early warning signs

Warning

“I don’t know what happened…he was fine before and as soon as we got married, he changed”. “In the early part of our relationship she was OK but as soon as we became more serious, she turned into a bunny-boiler”. “They are so possessive, I don’t have any room to breathe, they don’t want me … Read more

From com to site, the journey continues

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Since my ‘News update post‘ we’ve had the completion of a few important elections world-wide. The election which ‘seemingly’ most of the world has been interested in, has been the US one. I stand by my tweet concerning that election and agree with most of what another Phil has to say on the matter. Making … Read more